Lately I have had several conversations with different people (male & female) about "The Independent Woman". This saying has penetrated so many women for last decade, if not longer and we have all heard songs to imply that women should be such. So, I would like to pose the question(s): At what point does being "An Independent Woman" becomes a negative thing to be"? Did the Independence of women kill chivalry? Do women allow men to be men? Do you think most women were pushed into Independence?
Please forward this to all the females and males you know so I can get all sides. To leave your comment just click on Read,Understood,Responded. If there are any questions that you are not sure about and need me to elaborate on further please let me know. You are more than welcome to come from a biblical standpoint, experience standpoint or just how you view things. I will leave my 2 cents as well.
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Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Questions for the masses!
Posted by Natrually-loving-God at 1:20 PM
Labels: Independance, Women
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I think that it is alright to be independent as a woman, and to have things in your life that you have accomplished because it gives you a sense of self, as long as you do not allow it to remove you from the Biblical Order of God. When I say this, I am meaning a lot of times we become so accomplished that we neglect what God commands us to do as far as the home is concerned. He tells us to guide the home.. so if we are to exhausted and focused on self we neglect Him and his order. He tells us to be fruitful and multiply, but many times because of self and what self wants to do, we put off having family. So when you talk about independence make sure you are not independent from the Lord and the Word of the Lord.
Being independent is a "MUST" for most women. Most of us have been taught from the beginning from our "single mothers" --- "You need to learn to do for yourself because you can't depend on the support of a man. However, we focus to much on protecting ourselves from the bad men that we tend to overlook the good ones. When we do find that "Special Someone" we need to let go. I'm not suggesting that we lose who we are (never that), but we need to let that man be a man. Which leads to the next questions. YES !!! Chivalry is a rare and dying thing, because we no longer demand it. We as women should "EXPECT" the man to open the door for you, help you with your coat, bring the groceries in the house, change your flat tire ... Should I say more ladies? I believe that too much independence does one of two things: One, puts in the man's mind that he has someone that will take care of him or two, makes a man feel intimidated and worthless as he feels he has nothing to offer you. The right man (Your GOD given man) will respect you, will make you feel that you can keep your independence, still look good in the boardroom but know when to be a woman, wife, and mother when you get home.
I was recently told by a "Man" that a woman with too much independence sends a clear signal to the man that "he is not needed nor wanted. What would it be left for him to do?" Excuse? I think so! A woman can be independent without trying to mimic a man. Why would a man not want a women that stands her ground, sets her OWN goals and strives to achieve them? Thus leaving her own footprint in the sand. No one said that his footprints would not be beside hers. A man and woman can work together but she should not hold herself back just to prevent him from feeling intimidated. Perhaps he should step up his game so he doesn't feel that way. Maybe he was content in his life and career and her journey to higher hights and deeper depths gave him the kick in the rear that he needed. That said, two people working together can achieve twice as much if, "They become one..one mind, one heart, one soul" then there is not room for intimidation, jealously, envy!!! NUF SAID!
Let me just add... when you are blessed with a REAL MAN by all means "STAND DOWN" there is no need to do his job for him, you have enough trying to do your own job well. However you should always know how to perform his job even if you never have to do it!
I believe that's not even about a man being intimidated by a woman. From the experience of living with my parents and seeing the dynamics of a marriage from the outside point of view, I think it all comes down to men are givers and women receive.
Men were made to walk in authority so how can they be providers when a woman tells him, "I can do it myself." How can a man be strength if a woman tells him, "I got this." In essence a woman is sending the signal to a man that she can do it all by herself and doesn't need him because a man's job is to provide and give of his self to the household. he can't protect and successfully do his job if there's "2 chiefs and not enough Indians."
Amen to MommaLash! I concur
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