Afterthought vs Priority

Which will you choose?

Priority: somebody or something that is ranked highly in terms of importance or urgency; earlier occurrence-the state of having preceded something else--
Afterthought: something added later; something not thought of, said, or done originally, but added afterward--

I decided along time ago that I will never settle for being an afterthought, I require priority! Yep, P-r-i-ority....some may say how vain, dang skippy I am. Most people, specifically men, say that I have a very aggressive personality, and that I'm to the point and very direct. When I talk, you almost get the impression that you are to just do what I say to do, although, I don't think that's the case but I've been told on several occasions that's how I come off. I'm not sure if that's a good or a bad thing, however I have this certain individual that when I tend to come off as such he politely put me in my place and try to tell (hint: try) me exactly what I will and won't do. How does he do this you say, trust and believe it's not by him raising his voice or getting any aggressive than I appear to be, but it's simply by him looking me square in the eyes and saying "Tori, sweetheart" such and such this or that" just by the eye contact and his uncompromising tone makes me realize that I need to calm down. Any way I said all that to say this, this same individual that have a way of calming me down so easily also have the tendency to PISS ME STRAIGHT OFF!

He seems very methodical in how he handles things. It's strange b/c he seems to have placed me on a schedule, so sometimes I purposely don't answer and call him back later just to throw off his schedule. I get his voicmail and we seem to go back and forth. Man, nothing gets me or him heated more than calling someone and their phone is turned off and since me and him are one of those same folk that doesn’t keep our phone on during the day or at night b/c we don't really care to be reachable 24/7, it becomes a problem!! What happens next, we will go on this 2-3 week hiatus from talking to one another, sometimes that works and others it doesn't! I know I can be moody and hard to deal with but again that PISS me off to no end! That leads to my question for him (who may or may not be reading this) which will you chose to be an Afterthought or Priority!